What book are you reading? I just finished one by Jim McComb, a friend of mine from 9th grade, titled, “Undiscovered Horizons.” In it he challenges his readers to discover their destiny. I’m not talking about anything to do with your career—I’m talking about your destiny.
In the middle of my thoughts I receive an e-mail from Ed Sieber. Ed is the chairman of the Leadership Council at Glass Doctor and our longest tenured franchisee. More than 25 years ago three boys—Ed, Wyatt and Tim—joined their dad, Wyatt, to open a franchise in Charlotte.
Ed’s mom, Marie, had cancer and passed away Wednesday evening.
Mary Kay, my wife, and I flew to Charlotte for the visitation on Friday night and services on Saturday at a beautiful church—Carmel Baptist in Charlotte.
Listening to the pastors of the church and the amazing eulogy from Ed, it became obvious what his mom’s destiny was—making people feel better about themselves. We heard story after story of others feeling or faring better after any interaction with her. This included her three sons and their wives, her 12 grandchildren and anyone she touched. For 28 years she and her husband, Wyatt, were in charge of the new member’s class at Carmel. I wish we had known her.
Marie was the ‘real deal’ by any measure of her life. She was Godly person and everyone knew that her favorite book was the Bible. You could anticipate Marie’s reaction to any situation because her decisions and actions were consistent with her beliefs.
Let’s use the three-word test. What three words today would your best friends say to describe you? More importantly, what three words do your employees use to describe you? Are these words consistent regardless of the respondent?
I’ve had friends who were very different in the two roles. They were jerks at work while being the best people to hang out with on a Saturday night. Why? The three words describing them in the different roles of their life were different based on what they were doing. That’s called situational behaviors. No doubt the three words describing Marie were consistent—regardless of what she was doing.
Marie’s service made me think even more about McComb’s book. In 2011, the day before Jim’s 57th birthday, he had emergency surgery for a ruptured gall bladder. On the operating table he died—but was brought back. The events that happened during and after that time changed the course of his life forever and better defined his destiny. Amazing book!
Have you experienced a defining moment in your life? More than one?
It seems that frequently something bad needs to happen before we have a wake-up call. The announcement you have lung cancer likely will cause you to stop smoking. A heart attack can make you consider changes in your life to lose weight and start exercising. The threat of a divorce could change the way you treat your spouse.
It doesn’t need to happen that way. That was evident in Marie Sieber’s life.
If you haven’t figured out your life-long purpose, I challenge you to spend some time this week and think about it. What event that might happen in your life that would make you have a major change?
Don’t wait. Make those changes now. Your destiny is up to you—not up to life’s circumstances. Real leaders understand this. Real Leaders make the changes when they can control the events—instead of waiting for the events that cause them to change.